Standing for Truth in a Lost World without Nit-Picking others to Death


Standing for Truth in a Lost World Without Nit-Picking Others to Death

I believe there are so many of us who have lost sight of Jesus in the middle of our fight for Truth. We know what is right and what is wrong, the Holy Spirit brings conviction to our hearts so we want to convict others.  Does that seem right? Is it our job as Christians to bring conviction to the lives of others?  No! We are to speak the truth in LOVE! It is the Holy Spirits job to convict.

John 16:5-11 5 “But now I go away to Him who sent Me, and none of you asks Me, ‘Where are You going?’ But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart. Nevertheless I tell you the truth. It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you. And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment: of sin, because they do not believe in Me; 10 of righteousness, because I go to My Father and you see Me no more; 11 of judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged.

I never understood where the term nit-picking came from until my family had lice.  If you and your family have never had lice, I pray that you never have to deal with it.  It was not fun at all.  But, If you have had it, then you understand what nit-picking is.  You use a small fine-tooth comb as you search for the little nits in your children’s hair.  It takes hours and hours and you slowly comb through every fine strand of hair looking for something to pick out and wipe off onto a towel, then resume the search.

I feel like so many of us Christians do this same thing in the metaphorical sense with each other, with our spouses, children, family members, friends and others.   We search for all of the unimportant errors and the tiny faults to pick them out and criticize. I know I am not blameless and have succumbed to this religious spirit as well, so please don’t feel that I am picking you out of a crowd to throw stones at you.  I am simply trying to draw awareness to this fact.  We have all been guilty, and its high time we stop this behavior.

As believers, as Christians we are called to be like Christ, not the religious zealots.  Jesus came to love people from the outside-in.  The change comes from the inside and slowly manifests itself to the outside.  The religious came not in love, but in demanding ways to change people on the outside without any concern for a change of the heart.

Jesus didn’t come to manipulate us or condemn us or even to intimidate us.  Our love for him causes us to change out of honor and respect. We don’t end up changing because he argued or debated us to death.

I become so sad when I get on Facebook lately and see so many Christians debating and arguing over trivial things. Instead of speaking the truth in love , the words used are hateful, demanding, and anything but Christ-like. I bet Satan is loving it. He wants us to all turn against each other, to nit-pick each other to death. He wants the church to be in discord.  If we as a church are busy tearing each other down, who will reach out to the lost.  If we spend all of our time and energy in meaningless debates over trivial issues, debating theology and opinions , what kind of fruit are we producing.

Think of us all as an orchard of fruit trees so to speak.  Are we tending to each others gardens with love, helping to grow the trees and produce more life-giving fruit, or are we going up to each others trees, chopping at the roots , tearing off branches, prohibiting the production of any fruit from being available.

We should all stop being so concerned about BEING RIGHT and start being more concerned about LIVING RIGHT.

I believe it all starts at home. So to begin with, stop nit-picking your spouse and children. Stop pointing out every fault and failure to them and start building them up with love.  We are creatures of habit whether we like it or not.  So start creating habits for yourself that are healthy and life-giving. Make it intentional to practice love and forgiveness and patience even when you “feel” otherwise.  Don’t allow your feelings to control your behaviors.  As you develop the habit prayerfully, you will be more equipped to extend this habit of love to others.

Always pray before you speak! Sounds totally cliché I know, but it works.  If you feel a hateful word getting ready to escape from your lips, remember to bridle your tongue.  Go into your prayer closet if necessary, take a time out for yourself and ask God to help you.  We have to stop tearing each other down and start building each other up dear friends, brothers and sisters.  We are a family, rooted and grounded in Christ! Lets all remember that as we venture into this lost and dying world. We are surrounded by evil, surrounded by sin.  I am in no way, advising you to stop standing up for Truth.  God hates evil and loves righteousness.  We are to hate the sin, but love the sinner.  So if the Holy Spirit is leading you to speak up, leading you to speak out, please do so in love.  Stand up for what is right, but remember you are fighting the sin, you are fighting the evil spirits in the world, not the person controlled by these things.  Don’t tear down the person in the process.  We want to draw each other and the lost to Christ, not drive them further away.

We need to learn how to package the truth to be delivered.  Think about everyday products that you purchase at the store.  What sells that product?  Is it the product itself or is it the creative packaging it is being sold in.  Your favorite cosmetic products for example, with the flashy pictures and enticing words that draw you to examine it just a little bit closer.  Advertising and packaging sells! So as you want to deliver a product of truth to those you love and strangers alike, think about how you can sell that truth.  Get them to examine the words you are speaking a little bit closer, and not just instantly be turned away.  Wrap the Truth in Love! Love always wins! Jesus is love.

Luke 6:31

31 And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise.

Above all Jesus is love.  We are to speak the truth in love of course, but we are not called to convict others.  That is the Holy Spirit’s job to bring conviction and change into the hearts of us and everyone else.  So please, dear friend, don’t nit-pick people to death.  Don’t point out every fault and flaw you find, and don’t go searching for them.  It is a distraction from our real mission here on this earth. None of us are perfect.  Some truths must be pointed out and some faults should be left alone.

Some things to remember before you present a truth to another:


Pray- Is God leading you to point this out, or is it your own fleshly desire to point out another persons flaw.

Respect- If God is leading you to approach someone , how can you do so respectfully and with love.

Empower- How can you as a believer better empower this person to over-come what they are dealing with. Help them, Love them.  Show them the way by pointing them to Jesus.

Salvation- First and foremost, this persons salvation is most important.  Their change must come from within, and that only happens from having a loving and saving relationship with Jesus.

Each- Remember that each person is a soul, that is deeply loved by Christ as an individual.  God remembers our names not our sin.

Nit-picking- Are you nitpicking , looking for small unimportant flaws or are you called by God to help point out a serious sin.

Time- Remember all change takes time, we don’t  become Christ-like overnight.  Some sins take longer to overcome, so be patient with others and allow the Holy Spirit to do his job as you pray for people.

Wishing you all many Blessings! Go and be Loving!



3 thoughts on “Standing for Truth in a Lost World without Nit-Picking others to Death

  1. We are to be ready to give an answer for the hope that lies within us, but do so with respect toward all people…(1 Pet. 3:15). Another quote I like is: “Preach a sermon wherever you go, and when necessary, use words!”

    Hopefully our actions will speak for our faith when we may not even know it! Good post…


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