Disciplining Our Tongue And Transforming The Way We Talk

Ephesians 4:29 “ Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.” MSG

“When you talk, don’t say anything bad. But say the good things that people need—whatever will help them grow stronger. Then what you say will be a blessing to those who hear you.” ERV

“Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it”. AMP

“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” NKJV

Several Reference Versions of the same Scripture here.  The wording is all different, but the meaning is the same.  I really liked the AMP version, It spoke to me and definitely convicted me.

How often do we as Christians forget about this scripture?  I know I am guilty of letting worthless talk slip out.  James 3:2 “For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.”  We are all guilty of erring with our tongues.  The definition of “err” means to make a mistake, to do wrong.  A synonym of erring is sinning.  Pretty crazy to think that seemingly harmless, misspoken words can be  considered sin. Whether it be foul language, gossip, lying, name calling, trading insults, sarcasm, taunting, blaming others, complaining, bitter words, intimidation, devious and scheming speech, or inappropriate comedy or jokes, and of course taking the Lord’s name in vain, they all violate this scripture!

WOW! When God first laid this scripture on my heart the other day, as I was reading, I felt that inner tug to read it again.  Of course I had read it so many times and knew what it meant, “don’t cuss”.  No, God wasn’t gonna let me get away from it that easy.  This scripture has so much more meaning to it than just not cussing, and I am  guilty of so many of these, that I am ashamed of myself. So I am very Thankful that I have Jesus! I can repent and turn away from negative speech and he is faithful to forgive!

As we are made new creatures in Christ, our speech also should back up that claim.  We need to use our words to build others up, to be a LIGHT in the dark world.  Our words come from our thoughts, so we first must change our thoughts from the inside! In Matthew 12:34-37″ “You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.” MSG 

We must judge our own thoughts and examine our own hearts, removing the logs from our own eyes as we ask God for forgiveness and pray for help to be a more Godly person. We Grieve the Holy Spirit when we allow rotten speech to escape our lips. Ephesians 4:30″ Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted.” MSG

Let us make a decision to change and transform our speech, to use our words to build others up and speak life into the atmosphere. If we focus on being loving, kind, faithful, patient, gentle and forgiving,  we can change the habits of our negative thoughts by creating new habits of pure thoughts.  This change may not take place overnight, I  have been struggling for a few days to make this change myself.  I will start thinking “this is wrong, or I wish this was different, or why do you always have to be blah blah blah…oh did you hear that so and so did this?”  Yeah, It is tough to stop these thoughts from tumbling out of our mouths like a waterfall after a good rain, but it is possible.  We need to stay in our Bibles, and be in constant prayer. We can enlist our spouses or a good friend as an accountability partner.  I believe we will see huge changes in the way we feel, as well as changes in  those around us. My husband and children deserve a wife and mommy that has pure and positive things to say.  How can you change your speech to better implement Ephesians 4:29 into your life?  Meditate on the Scripture for a few days, or weeks and allow God to speak to you through His Word.

Wishing you all many blessings and peace in Jesus!



4 thoughts on “Disciplining Our Tongue And Transforming The Way We Talk

  1. Great point! Jesus was so plain-spoken and profound on this point. But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you. 19 For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. 20 These are what defile you. Eating with unwashed hands will never defile you.”


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